wisdom collected on the journey, with love from Lea
The daily reader Courage to Change has a great reading on detachment with love. The author of the page for January 22 (page 22) shares that her alcoholic spouse would often fall out of bed, and she would always get … Continue reading “The Blanket” →
We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty. Maya Angelou
LOVE = Let Others Voluntarily Evolve
An apology without restitution/amends is like a burglar saying “I’m sorry I broke into your home. But I’m keeping your stuff.”
An aphorism is a short saying that observes a general truth. This is a growing collection of aphorisms I have heard in the rooms and other places. See also the conference-approved Al-Anon slogans at Al-Anon Slogans – Al-Anon Family Groups. The … Continue reading “Aphorisms” →
A growing list … ABC = Anger, Blaming, Complaining (Don’ts)DETACH = Don’t Even Think About Changing Him/HerFAITH = First Accept It Then HopeFEAR = False Evidence Appearing RealFEAR = Forgetting Everything’s All RightFEAR = Frantic Effort to Assume ResponsibilityFEAR = … Continue reading “Acronyms” →
Here are three perspectives on this topic. The consensus seems to be that it is a matter of group conscience and of “take what you like and leave the rest.” Notes from the Northern California World Service Area (NCWSA) – … Continue reading “The Lord’s Prayer at Meetings” →
Some alternatives: GOD = Good Orderly DirectionGroup Of DetachersGroup Of DogsGift Of DesperationGrow Or DieGifts Offered DailyGrace Over DramaGive Others DignityGive Ourselves Dignity God is the name we give to the unknown.
Bitterness is not the end,it’s the beginning—of understanding,of healing,of hope.Forgotten joy, overshadowedby endless nights and broken promises.Silent dinners, empty apologies—the unseen toll of love’s labor lost.Mourning what could have been,in the shadows of what is.Patience stretched thin,love’s weight—unbearable, yet borne.Learning … Continue reading “Beyond the Next Step” →
It’s okay to excuse yourself…
Acronym heard in a meeting: PAUSE More acronyms for PAUSE: Pause And Use Spiritual Energy Perhaps Another Useful Solution Exists People Are Usually Stupid, Expect it
The Past The Truth You — heard from Father Tom W.
What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger? Nope. Done with that.
I have character defects and I am not afraid to use them.
“I used to set aside a time to pray. No more! I told my Higher Power ‘Let’s talk all day long. Let’s never hang up.’” — Janie K, CA Published in The Forum, March 2023
“Carrying the message does not mean we become evangelists; it means our lives become a light. We will learn how to shine. If we apply this program to all areas of our lives, it will work in all areas of … Continue reading “Our Lives Become a Light” →
For those moments when you need a good laugh: Non Al-Anon answer: “It’s fine. I’ll just sit here in the dark….I don’t need light….”
Before coming into Al-Anon I had heard a lot about forgiveness. My understanding was that forgiveness was an act of kindness and generosity on my part, through which another person, who had offended me, was relieved of some burden of … Continue reading “Forgiveness in Al-Anon” →
“It is not your fault you experienced trauma, but it is your responsibility to heal from it.”
Boundaries describe actions you will take and do not require the cooperation of anyone else.