wisdom collected on the journey, with love from Lea
Bitterness is not the end,it’s the beginning—of understanding,of healing,of hope.Forgotten joy, overshadowedby endless nights and broken promises.Silent dinners, empty apologies—the unseen toll of love’s labor lost.Mourning what could have been,in the shadows of what is.Patience stretched thin,love’s weight—unbearable, yet borne.Learning … Continue reading “Beyond the Next Step” →
It’s okay to excuse yourself…
Acronym heard in a meeting: PAUSE More acronyms for PAUSE: Pause And Use Spiritual Energy Perhaps Another Useful Solution Exists People Are Usually Stupid, Expect it
The Past The Truth You — heard from Father Tom W.
What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger? Nope. Done with that.
I have character defects and I am not afraid to use them.
“I used to set aside a time to pray. No more! I told my Higher Power ‘Let’s talk all day long. Let’s never hang up.’” — Janie K, CA Published in The Forum, March 2023
“Carrying the message does not mean we become evangelists; it means our lives become a light. We will learn how to shine. If we apply this program to all areas of our lives, it will work in all areas of … Continue reading “Our Lives Become a Light” →
For those moments when you need a good laugh: Non Al-Anon answer: “It’s fine. I’ll just sit here in the dark….I don’t need light….”
Before coming into Al-Anon I had heard a lot about forgiveness. My understanding was that forgiveness was an act of kindness and generosity on my part, through which another person, who had offended me, was relieved of some burden of … Continue reading “Forgiveness in Al-Anon” →
“It is not your fault you experienced trauma, but it is your responsibility to heal from it.”
Boundaries describe actions you will take and do not require the cooperation of anyone else.
Follow the link below for an excerpt from Opening Our Hearts, Transforming Our Losses found on the Al-Anon.org blog It covers the Family Disease, Uncertainty and Crisis/Chaos, Living with Chronic Illness due to Alcoholism, Anticipatory Grief, and Detachment. https://al-anon.org/blog/opening-hearts-transforming-losses/
But they are still living in my head. … heard at a meeting
We don’t share another’s identity, but we can share our own, if we want.
From Anne Lamott’s Dusk, Night, Dawn (2021) From the Internet
Heard in a Sponsorship Workshop Doing Al-Anon without a sponsor is like going to the swimming pool and watching other people swim. Sponsorship is not a lifetime commitment. Letting go is not a sign of failure The sponsor holds the … Continue reading “Sponsorship” →
Lois W., the wife of Bill W., co-founder of AA, says in her story, ‘After a while I began to wonder why I was not as happy as I ought to be since the one thing I had been yearning … Continue reading “Shoes” →
Giving up will leave you broken, letting go will leave you empowered.
A growing collection of nuggets heard in meetings and online. If you have to fight monsters, don’t become a monster in the process. Faith is hope with a good track record. Don’t believe everything you think. I go to meetings so … Continue reading “Heard in a Meeting” →