I was talking to a friend\none evening and she shared how she dealt with her resentments. I remember\ngoing home happy because I didn\u2019t think I had a resentment problem. I was\nwrong.
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\n\u200bThat night my computer wasn\u2019t working properly,\nI quickly realized that my hard drive was full. To free up space, I used\nthe computer\u2019s uninstall wizard to get rid of unwanted programs. My\ncomputer ran much better.
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\nThen it hit me: my brain was full of\nresentments, and it wasn\u2019t working properly. Years of resentments had\nclogged my brain and affected my serenity and happiness.
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\nComputer programs have branches that reach into\nthe deepest part of the computer. It\u2019s easy to find and delete a single\ncomputer program, but it is almost impossible to find and delete all of the\ninterconnecting programs.
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\nResentments are very similar to unwanted\ncomputer programs. I had accumulated more than 45 years of\nresentments. My brain has billions of interconnections to my resentments,\nand I cannot begin to understand how to delete all of them.
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\nMy computer\u2019s uninstall wizard uses four steps\nthat simplify finding and deleting unwanted programs and their\nconnections. In the first steps, I search the hard drive to identify any\nunwanted programs. I then discuss with a systems administrator the exact\nnature of the unwanted program to determine if it should be removed. The\nwizard then asks if I am entirely ready to delete the program. By\nselecting the finish button, I ask my computer to remove the unwanted program\nand the process of seeking out and eliminating the unwanted program and all of\nits connections begins.
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\nI needed an uninstall wizard for my\nresentments. I found one with Steps Four, Five, Six, and Seven. \nThese Steps, used with other program tools, help eliminate and prevent\nresentments.
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\nWith Step Four, I take a fearless and searching\nmoral inventory. I can identify and list resentments that were not\npreviously visible. It allows me to see my part in my resentments.
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\nI take the Fifth Step to verify, validate, and\nsort out the exact nature of my resentments by sharing with myself or another\nperson. In the Sixth Step I realize what character defects are not good\nfor me. Once I realize that resentments make me angry, obsessive, and\nonly hurt me, I am entirely ready to remove them.
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\nThe Seventh Step is the finish button that\nallows my Higher Power to do His job. I humbly ask Him to remove my\nresentments. This request starts a process where my Higher Power finds\nand eliminates the remainders of my resentments. After taking the Seventh\nStep, I need to be patient. My computer works in near real time, but the\nSeventh Step works on God\u2019s time. Computers are attacked daily by\nviruses and spy ware. Antivirus programs protect the computer by constantly\ntaking inventories. When a malicious program is found, the software\npromptly deletes it.
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\nI am attacked by everyday life events. I\nhave trigger points that can instantly reinstate my resentments. The\nTenth Step maintains and protects my serenity. I use it to prevent new\nand old resentments from developing by continuing to take my inventory and\npromptly admitting when I am wrong.
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\nFirewalls protect computers from destructive\nviruses and unauthorized users. How can I prevent resentments? I\u2019ve\nlearned that by setting boundaries and detaching with love, most of my\nresentments can be avoided.
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\nBy John D., Maryland April, 2008
\nReprinted with permission of The Forum
\nAl-Anon Family Groups Incorporated, Virginia\nBeach, VA<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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